Stage 2. Stop Breaking Things
Stage 2 - Stop Breaking Things
Category 4 - Week 2
Category 4 - Sexual Impropriety
Week 2 - Catching: scoring begins, using the 0-4 scale. The goal is not to stop the behavior yet - it's to notice precisely when awareness arrives: before, during, or only after.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable." - 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
Score Sexual Impropriety each evening using the same scale, on the honesty standard from the category description - respect for the other person's full humanity - not a legal one.
Today's Practice
Score today's day honestly, using the dignity standard rather than a legal one.
Evening Sit + Scoring
10-minute sit. Score.
- 0: Didn't catch it, ran on autopilot.
- 1: Caught it after - retrospective awareness, real but late.
- 2: Caught it during, aware, and kept going anyway - harder to admit than a zero or a one, more useful than either.
- 3: Caught it during and changed course - the target.
- 4: Saw the setup forming and chose differently before it started - rare, and worth noting when it happens.
"Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin." - James 1:14-15
There's a recognizable feeling right before this category activates - a shift in attention, a justification already forming. Get familiar with its texture.
Today's Practice
Score today. After any instance today, write one sentence describing the moment right before it.
Evening Sit
10-minute sit. Score.
"I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." - Job 31:1
'It's not that serious' or 'nothing actually happened' is the story. Score honestly instead.
Today's Practice
When you catch this category today, score it without the minimizing story.
Evening Sit + Scoring
10-minute sit. Score.
- 0: Didn't catch it, ran on autopilot.
- 1: Caught it after - retrospective awareness, real but late.
- 2: Caught it during, aware, and kept going anyway - harder to admit than a zero or a one, more useful than either.
- 3: Caught it during and changed course - the target.
- 4: Saw the setup forming and chose differently before it started - rare, and worth noting when it happens.
"God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
Weekly Question
Where did I assert my needs at the expense of another this week?
Write one specific instance from this category this week: one moment, one person, exactly what happened.